Friday, December 24, 2004
~ 12:40 PM ~
the reason y the title is freestyle coz i intend to write 2 separate things today and therefore a title would not be apporiate. why? coz teachers have been teaching us tt the essay must be with regards to the title...so freestyle is anything goes...not the swimming stroke...
okz...i m finally recovered from my food poisoning. m alive kicking again...and kicking hard! just that i still have to be careful of my diet and not eat something unhealthy..for the time being..lolx!
having a small xmas party at my house tml (or maybe on sat...dunno yet..lolx!). wateva the case, i m gonna eat till my stomach's content! this is to make up for wat i couldnt eat for the past 2 days....had to eat porridge cooked by my bro last nite for dinner...since it was his 1st time cooking porridge..i cant say much...anywayz, thanx bro! though it tasted a bit blend...it's the heart tt counts!
didnt do much today..except went bowling wif my bro and his fren..didnt bowl too well (expected...-_-) since i just recovered and my leg was hurting for some reason (maybe due to my sleeping position).
after bowling went to buy a xmas present for the party tml or sat..coz there will be a present exchaning session...gosh...when was the last time i had sort of a thing? pri school i think.. anywayz..should be quite coolz.
okz...enuff of wat i did today..time to talk abt something nicey nice..
was reading a fren's blog yesterday...i've known this fren for 3 years now..were A level classmates back in singapore...as some general backgrd, she is a diligent and independent girl, and has her own opinions. one of her traits is that she likes to decipher people. in other words, she likes to judge ppl on certain occasions and situations, then form a general impression. think many of us have done this b4?
one day, as usual, she was chattig wif her fren and giving some feedbacks or something like tt (aint really clear how it went), and suddenly her fren sent her a msg tt read
“dun always act as if u noe others very well…”
“cos u dun….”
My fren was hurt upon seeing these 2 sentences. she began askign herself whether wat she had done all along was rite? she began to doubt herself...started having some impressions tt ppl were scolding her behind her back for trying to act smart.
for me, there's nothing i can say abt wat to do..except to stand firm in ur beliefs and accomodate when u have to. have gotta be flexible..say things when it is the rite time.
but from this episode, let us all reflect on times when we were judging ppl's characters. in the past, i loved to judge ppl's charc too...i still do now, except tt i do it more passively now. i see, i observe, i form an image and a perception is formed. tt's all. i dun make any comments abt the person in front of him. even if i think there is some sort of improvements tt he has to make, i try to make it sound indirect. it's simple, no one likes to hear his faults. even i dun like ppl coming up to me and say "jason, i hate u"
i firmly believe tt though we have the right to judge ppl's char, we dun have the right to tell ppl tt their char is as such and therefore should change. coz, who are we to judge ppl? it gives a sense of class division..like hey, i m a better person than u. if i think u r bad, u r bad. remember, in other ppl's eyes, we may be bad too. therefore, i always opt for keeping comments to myself. it's only when a person asks how i think abt him/her then i tell him my feelings. but of coz, i say it in a frenly manner. communication has to be constructive, not destructive.
a similar situation is when we are giving advice to frens. give suggestions, not tell him wat he/she should do. we can never fully comprehend wat the troubled fren is experiencing and therefore, telling him wat to do when he cant do it is very irritating for the victim himself. i usually just listen...tt's all. perhaps just tell him to believe in his own faith and dun despair. suggestions will be given but remember, the ultimate decision lies with the person himself.
tt's all for today folks...enjoy a nice day
FUMOFU!!!
